Building a mother daughter bond is the best thing you could do for the relationship of your daughter and yourself. The mother-daughter relationship is complex. There are many different factors that determine the outcome of this bond. Stick with me while I share the best ways to build unbreakable mother daughter bonds.
9 Tips for Mother Daughter Bonds:
Being that us moms are more experienced and have superiority, we sometimes forget to actually listen to our daughters. Listening to your daughter reassures her that you respect and value her. Also that you are there to help with any problem she may have.
Listening allows us moms the chance to hear our daughters out before responding the wrong way, with the wrong answer or by over reacting.
Key takeaway: No matter the age. Always remember to have an open ear.
2. TEACH HER
Growing up there were so many things I didn’t know. I’m assuming my mom didn’t teach me those things because maybe her mom didn’t teach her. And well you know. The cycle repeats itself.
But that cycle can stop with you. Teach your daughter everything you didn’t know along with everything you were taught by your mom.
I teach my daughter about hygiene, spirituality, peer pressure and so much more. Including money and saving or investing. She’s never (knock on wood)scared to ask me anything that she’s confused about because she knows that I’m all on board for teaching her new things outside of the academic (school) spectrum.
If you’re stumped on where to start, think about the things you had to learn on your own. What are some things you could have benefited from knowing growing up?
Sidenote: This is not to bash any mothers or grandmothers who put their all into raising us. It’s to simply be aware of a shortcoming and try to fix it this time around.
3. KEEP YOUR WORD!
I get it. Things happen and you sometimes can’t fall through on some of the promises you’ve made. But instead of brushing it off. A little explanation goes a long way.
I have to admit that I’m super guilty of not being able to commit to a promise I made to Navie. And when she asked why, instead of explaining to her why not I just shut it down. That definitely wasn’t a great way to respond. Especially when she just wanted to know.
So instead of brushing it off, make that a teaching moment about communication.
4. BE HER CHEERLEADER!
Oh my gosh you couldn’t imagine the amount confidence you can instill in your daughter just by being her cheerleader. It is one of the best ways to build unbreakable mother daughter bonds. Giving her that pep talk before a game, a test or even her first day of school means everything.
Confidence starts at home. And sometimes kids don’t know how to be confident or even know what confidence is. However, a great way to start is to be by her side and be her number one fan. You can also do this with affirmations. After you finish this post, check out 13 Daily Affirmations for Girls.
5. HAVE A TRADITION
This is something that neither of the girls in my family have ever had (to my knowledge at-least). A mommy-daughter tradition is a must have and would definitely have a positive impact on the bond that is built.
One of my goals is to travel once per year with just Navie and myself as our mother-daughter tradition. The good thing about this is it doesn’t matter how old your daughter is. It’s never too late to start a mommy-daughter tradition.
What’s your tradition?
6. ALONE TIME
This is kind of like number 5. Except having mommy-daughter alone time is geared more towards the everyday life. Versus the once per year traveling.
At least once or twice per week try to squeeze in some alone time with just you and your daughter. The beginning and end of the week are perfect. You could go out for lunch or dinner and just talk about your week. What happened at school, practice or at work.
This is a great way to ensure that the relationship is growing in a positive direction.
7. DONT “RIGHT” HER WRONGS
I’ve seen it time and time again. Moms going complete bonkers to defend their daughter’s wrong doings. Now don’t get me wrong here. When it’s time to protect your kids, do so by all means. However, don’t “let it slide” when your daughter is misbehaving and acting out.
In the end it only hurts her. Because once she reaches the real world it will be hard for her to adjust to being held accountable for her actions. And resentment could soon follow.
8. BE OPEN AND SUPPORTIVE
Support from a parent goes a long way. If your daughter ever tries to pursue something new, be there for her and take interest in helping her learn the ropes.
The stories I’ve heard from adults speaking on how their parents always shot down their ideas is heartbreaking and infuriating at the same time.
Your daughter should feel as if she can come to you with anything and in return get respectful and logical responses.
After all, you could have the next (insert your favorite successful person) on your hands.
9. HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF
Boy oh boy. Does this one take the cake. How do you expect to nurture and grow a bond with your daughter if you have low self esteem.
Many people may say… “What does me being confident have to do with the bond I have with my daughter?”
NEWSFLASH: It has everything to do with your mommy-daughter bond. How you feel about yourself and how you see yourself has everything to do with your mother-daughter bond.
Once you think about it, building an unbreakable mommy–daughter relationship is not hard. You just have to be thoughtful and respectful to your daughter as you would like from her. I hope these best ways to build unbreakable mother daughter bonds helped you.
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Around The Web
Here are a few interesting posts that I found around the web on the same topic.
- Care(dot)com: Mother-Daughter Relationships
- Susan from Imom(dot)com: 5 Ways To Build Strong Mom-Daughter Bond
- SunshineAnd Hurricanes: 5 Ways to Build A Strong Mother-Daughter Relationship